The Biggest, Most Reputable Online Dating Site: OkCupid
Name: OkCupid (Visit OkCupid)
Type: Online Dating Platform
Best Website For: Starting Off with Online Dating
Reason it's on The Best Sites:
OkCupid is a great place to start off with online dating. The site is extremely popular and forces you to focus on your profile a bit more than Tinder. Like Tinder, the site offers "swipe functionality" where you swipe left or right if you like someone.
HOW IT WORKS
Rich profiles highlight your personality and interests. Questions inform our algorithm so we get to know your deal breakers, and what you care about most. OkCupid Discovery helps you search for people who share your passions. Our one-of-a-kind messaging system lets you focus only on the connections you're interested in, and none of the ones you’re not.
Sounds like a nice change, right?
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“Want to have ‘hell yes’ first dates? OkCupid is the perfect wingman” - Huffington Post
“OkCupid may be the OG of dating sites, but that doesn’t mean it’s done innovating.” - Glamour
“OkCupid is giving you a chance to really connect with someone…” - Elite Daily
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Journalist Jasmine Lobe, who bravely spoke about harassment at the hands of Harvey Weinstein, reflects on the past, present and future of DTF
My neighbor and I had a thing. I was in apartment 205 and he was in 206. He’d invite me over for late-night movies. I’d make up reasons to stop by. Did he have any olive oil or salt?
The hooking up was hot, but I noticed a trend: he only really wanted me after a night of drinking. He’d usually knock on my door at 4 a.m.
When I told him I had feelings for him, the knocking stopped.
He moved on quickly. He conveniently started hooking up with the woman in apartment 207. I’d hear them in the hallway giggling. I’d press my ear against my wall (her bedroom was on the other side) and my heart would stop. I’d blast music and try not to cry.
I wasn’t the “cool” girl who was DTF. I was emotional. I had feelings. I was “weak.”
But I could never win, because if I had been “cool” enough to be DTF, I’d still feel disrespected.
According to one urban dictionary definition, DTF “refers to a nasty, slutty whore who is willing to go home with some random guy she just met (in most cases the girl is drunk but not always) and fuck. Afterward, the girl will sometimes leave on her own but in most cases the guy will kick her out once he’s been satisfied.” Thankfully, attitudes are changing and the stigma attached to singles, particularly women, who are looking for something casual has finally begun to lift. But there’s still a lot to be done to protect, and empower, people to hook up, date, and communicate on their own terms.
The #MeToo movement has opened the floodgates for women (myself included) to name their harassers and be believed, but it’s bigger than that — it’s systemic. It’s time to unravel patriarchy and that’s certainly going to affect dating, too. OkCupid’s on to that in a big way with their new campaign that is #DTFixDating. If you can’t get rid of DTF, then make it your own so the power’s in your hands.
I caught up with a few women I admire about their views on DTF — how it makes them feel, and what it means to redefine it.
Whitney Eden works for an advertising agency. I’m a big fan of her biting blog, DoYouEvenTinderBro.com, where she posts sexist texts she receives via dating apps. She’s holding these guys accountable because their actions don’t take place in a “vacuum.”
Whitney has tried different dating apps but likes OkCupid best because it gives her more information so there’s a richer background. One has to match before messages can be sent to inboxes, which weeds out the “headless dudes” and in her case, filters out the far right. She says, “If you believe women shouldn’t have contraceptive rights, we should never go out.”
She thinks OkCupid’s new campaign is a great start, but only marks the beginning of a long, much-needed battle to change the meaning in a culture where the traditional meaning of DTF is so ingrained.
“For the longest time women were afraid to say, ‘I’m not looking for a no-strings-attached relationship.’ You’re not cool if you voice that, and men take advantage of it. And while women are used to placating men’s egos, the current climate has empowered women to listen to their own voices. ‘Do I want to have sex? Or am I going to have sex because he wants to have sex.’”
It’s not just women who are affected by DTF’s toxicity. Whitney adds, “Men are still beholden to heteronormative gender roles, but I think there is more acceptance now. You can be a man and have feelings — basically, you can be a human being.”
As to how Whitney would reappropriate DTF, she says, “I’m down to fight patriarchy.”
Francesca Vuillemin is a Fashion Market Editor at Reserved Magazine, which recently launched their “Equal Means Equal” ad, a push for equal pay for women in media. She’s also a kick-ass astrologer, a dear friend — and was my date to OkCupid’s launch celebration for their new campaign. We took “upside down” pictures in their photo booth (the clouds were at our feet and flowers above our heads) to overturn the old DTF narrative. We pretended to fall from the sky, flailing our arms — which proved difficult for the photographer to capture. He finally politely asked us to be still and strike a pose.
We browsed the ads screened on the surrounding walls, while drinking vodka cucumber cocktails. Francesca was particularly struck by the playfulness and tender connection in the ads “rather than just expressing one’s carnal side.” For instance, a woman carrying another woman with a red rose, gazing into her eyes, stood against a bright pink, background in one of the images.
“The problem with DTF is it’s been framed from the man’s perspective,” Francesca said. “And for me, the reappropriation of DTF would certainly be more about bonding, but would also create space for women who just want to have casual, consensual sex, to do so without the stigma.”
Women’s voices are being heard now more than ever which allows for a shifting narrative for both men and women. “The times are changing, allowing men to express their feminine sides and women to express their sexual sides without judgment.”
As to how she would reappropriate DTF, she says “Down to feel a deep spiritual connection.”
“So casual, consensual sex with a deep spiritual connection?” I ask her.
“Yes,” she laughs. “I have a Scorpio moon.”
Keren Eldad is a celebrity life and dating coach whom I had the pleasure of working with. I tried her Date With Enthusiasm program and it worked! (I’m dating someone very special.) She’s all about switching the narrative in your head. I had to work on my self- worth and shift my own negative patterning from “I don’t deserve” to “I do.”
Keren thinks OkCupid’s Wieden + Kennedy campaign has “hit the nail on the head” by “hacking DTF and changing the story.”
“Wieden + Kennedy has done an excellent job at stage one: Distract. When you have a train going 100 miles an hour at a tree you cannot just stop it. You must divert it. So [likening DTF to a runaway train] reappropriating the F is a great first step. You deserve not just ‘better’ you deserve ‘exactly what you want.’”
Keren advises singles to keep the movement in motion by “minding your own vibe” and coining your own phase, whether it’s Down to find love, or simply Down to love.
These three women I spoke with all have different histories, different goals, different wants—in love and in life. But they can all agree that changing the meaning of the F in DTF is the first step. Whether it’s Down to fight patriarchy, Down to find a deep spiritual connection, or Down to Love —now, I’m down with all that.
Written by Jasmine Lobe.
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Together with Rosetta Stone, we’re releasing our first Language of Love Report — just in time for Valentine’s Day
Contrary to what many of us predicted, the world did not implode in 2017. There’s always this year for a worldwide shutdown — but, despite everything that’s going on, we’re feeling pretty hopeful that 2018 may be the year of unity, versus division. We’re not just going out on a limb, here. We worked with Rosetta Stone to collect nearly 700,000 responses to questions on love and language, and how they intersect, and we found that most people don’t see differing languages as true barriers when it comes to love. It’s quite the opposite: our Language of Love Report proves that folks are increasingly open to relationships with people who speak different languages and come from different countries.
Today we find that people are turning away from an insular mindset, instead embracing the idea that interacting with people from other backgrounds is a good thing — in life in general, and in their love lives. In fact, nearly two-thirds of participants said they could date someone who doesn’t speak their language well. Ninety-two percent of singles surveyed said they’re interested in learning another language, and 94% said they’re more open-minded after they’ve visited somewhere new.
Clearly, the vast majority of the singles we polled are interested in language, and people who speak those different from their own. But the numbers show that it’s millennials (18–36) who are the most invested in love that crosses borders. While over half of both age groups 37 to 53, and 54 and above, believe that it is very important for a couple to come from the same country, less than one third of millennials do.
Millennials are nearly 10% more likely to be open to dating someone who doesn’t speak their language well compared to non-millennials. And they’re actually the generation that responds most positively to all questions on language and love — from being interested in learning another language, to be more open-minded after traveling somewhere new. In response to if they find someone who speaks another language more attractive than someone who does not, 73% of millennials responded “yes,” compared to 65% of those 37 to 53 and 53% of those 54 and above.
So what do we make of all of this? Well, we take it as good news — singles are increasingly open to dating people who speak different languages, and millennials are leading the way. We also see our Language of Love Report as offering some useful information for your dating game, just in time for Valentine’s Day: learn a new language (or at least start to), and you’ll quickly become one of the most attractive options out there. So download Rosetta Stone (click here for a special discount), learn some phrases, connect with someone on OkCupid — and have a great date!
Speak the language of love with someone new on OkCupid right now.
In 2018, people are more open to love that crosses borders than ever before was originally published in The OkCupid Blog on Medium, where people are continuing the conversation by highlighting and responding to this story.
We have 7 (easy) insider tips on how to set up your profile
We get it—setting up your OkCupid profile can be an intimidating task. But here’s the thing: you’re probably overthinking it. Actually, you’re definitely overthinking it. Don’t get us wrong, though; being thoughtful is a good thing, and shows that you care. So for all you thoughtful folks out there, we have 7 tips that we shared with the App Store that make getting started on your profile a whole lot less intimidating, and a whole lot more—dare we say—fun.
- Upload a variety of photos. Varying up your photos helps people see more of who you are and what you like to do. Start with a solo shot, then add in photos from trips or pics where you’re enjoying a hobby like cooking or even stamp collecting—trust us, someone out there is into it too.
So you've decided to sign up for @okcupid...Now you just need to optimize your profile so potential matches know how awesome you are! Here to help: relationship expert Cleo Stiller. Tip #1: Upload a variety of photos. Read for more tips: https://t.co/66bKrwvpVv https://t.co/2pFo1yUcjP
2. Caption your photos. Adding a caption to your photo gives potential matches a little more context—not to mention a possible conversation starter: “You like to ferment kimchi, too? So cool!” Plus, captioning your photos ensures you’ll show up in OkCupid Discovery, so you can connect with people who are interested in the same things you are. Discovery helps you get noticed for the things you really care about.
3. Spell check. Someone would really judge you for little typo? Yes. Over 75% of people say they’re less likely to respond to someone who has spelling mistakes in their profile. No harm in a quick proofread.
4. Update often. Here’s some insider info—when you update your profile, we show you to more people. It’s our little reward for your taking the time to show off who you are right now. And the benefits don’t stop there: when you update your profile on a regular basis, you’re making sure people aren’t interested in connecting with the you of 2016.
5. Show support. Today more than ever, people want to date people who care about the same things they do. So if you volunteer for a local organization or support a non-profit, say something in your profile! At OkCupid, we make it even easier to connect over certain causes; right now, we’re supporting Planned Parenthood (and Planned Parenthood supporters) with the #IStandWithPP profile badge for all users who support the non-profit. Stay tuned for the next organization to be featured!
OkCupid profile pro tip #5: Show your support. People are more likely to be interested in you if you mention an organization you care about. Read for more: https://t.co/66bKrwvpVv https://t.co/mS0sG5Z1x3
6. Add new pics. This one’s easy: adding new pics increases your likes by at least two times. And while you’re at it, you might as well connect your Instagram account. Folks who connect Instagram to their profile get more messages than those who don’t.
7. Upload pics taken in the late afternoon. This one’s a bit of a mystery, but data shows that it works. Users with photos taken in the late afternoon get more likes.
Now is the perfect time to set up your OkCupid profile—you’re just in time for Valentine’s Day, OkCupid is the only dating app with features like Discovery that show off who you really are, and now you have the tips you need to make a great profile! You got this. Check out all the video clips here.
Make a profile on OkCupid today.
Share your best answers to our brand-new essay prompts for the chance to win big.
OkCupid has always been a place for people to meet based on what matters to them — which is why we’ve recently added 50 new essay prompts that help get to the core of who you are. And starting now, you’ll have the chance to win a $250 Visa e-gift card just for filling one out.
This contest runs from Monday February 5 at 10 AM EST through Monday February 13 at 10 AM EST. Here’s how to enter:
1. Respond to a new prompt on your OkCupid profile (to find them, open your OkCupid profile in the app or online and select a new prompt from the drop-down menu).
2. Take a screenshot of it and either post it to Instagram or Twitter, and include the following in the caption: “@okcupid” the hashtags “#mybestresponse” “#myOkCupidprofile” and “#contest”.
3. You must also be following OkCupid on whichever channel you post on — either Instagram or Twitter.
4. We’ll DM the winner on the respective channel.
So prepare your mightiest sentences and most favorite words for a chance to win. Our best advice? Be real, and be yourself. After all, it’s your dating profile.
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Check out 15 provocative images, from artists Maurizio Cattelan and Pierpaolo Ferrari, that redefine DTF
Last week, we announced our campaign to redefine DTF. You see, for way too long, DTF has been used in a derogatory way, thrown around during “locker room” talk—talk we’ll no longer tolerate. So we’re on a mission to flip the script on DTF. After all, shouldn’t the person it’s describing be the one to decide what it means? The F should be your F to choose, to be whatever the F you want it to be.
Developed by Wieden + Kennedy (the powerhouse agency behind campaigns for the likes of Nike and Spotify), our DTF campaign reminds daters of what they deserve: better. And to really bring this movement to life, we worked with famed duo Maurizio Cattelan and Pierpaolo Ferrari to create arresting images that do just that. The creators of Toliet Paper Magazine, Cattelan and Ferrari’s work on DTF is colorful, provocative, inclusive, and beautiful. But don’t trust us—we’re not the only ones who think the images look like little works of art.
If you need some inspiration for how you’ll redefine DTF, we’re sharing 15 images here—so take a look. Which is your favorite? Your least? Don’t worry, we won’t be mad—we truly want to know what you like and what you don’t, what inspires you and what offends you. We also won’t be mad if you decide to share your favorite on Instagram and Twitter.
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Dating deserves better, and so do you
You’re an interesting, thoughtful person. Of course you deserve better than late-night “you up?” texts, and your dates talking with friends about whether or not you’re DTF. Something has to change, because the problem with phrases like DTF is that too many people, especially women, don’t appreciate the question or the context. In a recent poll of 60,000 OkCupid users, nearly 80% of women said there’s too much emphasis on being DTF in dating today.
So if DTF is here to stay, we can change its meaning so it does the opposite of what it does now. So instead, it makes you feel confident and empowered. The F should be whatever the F*ck you want it to be. Flip that hair. Fight about the President. Fall head over heels. Because you deserve the exact same thing that dating deserves: better.
So let’s flip the script on DTF.
Let’s take something that’s often used to impose an antiquated dynamic on relationships, and turn it into a positive, powerful thing, for women in particular. Let’s do it because dating deserves better, you deserve better, and repositioning a once negative label into a positive one actually works. (Yes, we’re talking DTF and academic research all in one sentence — bear with us.) “When someone reappropriates a term by self-labeling, people view that person as more powerful, and the negativity of the word becomes less,” says Cynthia Wang, Associate Professor at Oklahoma State University and co-author of a study on the reappropriation of stigmatizing labels. “There’s evidence to suggest that the same can be done with relabeling, when someone or something relabels a term and then those who are labeled by it then self-label as such.” Basically, you choose your F and you become more powerful. If you’re DTFight Gender Stereotypes by Footing the Bill, then more power to you — literally.
And let’s be clear.
OkCupid is the dating app that shows who you really are, beyond just a photo. You have stories to tell, and passions to share, and things to talk about that are more interesting than the weather. You might be DTFarmer’s Market on the weekends and DTFight about the President after a particularly cringe-worthy tweet. There are other people on OkCupid who are down for the same things, and you don’t have to wait till the date to find out. We ask our users thousands of question so we can connect you with people who share your values; and now, with our movement to change how DTF is used, we’ve added questions to help you find dates who are looking for the same F that you are.
“Some dating apps put the focus on the photo, but our users are interested in getting below the surface. Subverting the meaning of DTF lets them do just that,” says OkCupid CMO, Melissa Hobley. “Empowering our users to define DTF for themselves, and helping them connect over their shared preferred Fs, takes away the negativity and makes DTF something you actually want to see in a message.”
You should get noticed for who you are, not what you look like. You should have the power to decide whether you’re down to F*ck, Flirt, Fall head over heels, or Filter out the Far Right. At OkCupid, we’re #DTFixDating.
See more images here.
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Our #IStandWithPP badge is back by popular demand
Starting today, you may see the #IStandWithPP badge on user profiles. The badge only shows up on profiles where the user publicly answered “no” to “Should the government defund Planned Parenthood?” And it only appears in DoubleTake on the app. So if you want to answer the question, or change your response, click here. And don’t worry—if you’ve answered “no” publicly, you might not see the badge on your own profile, but other users will see it on yours.
And if you want to learn more about how this all got started, click here.
Looking back on who found love on OkCupid
2017. What a whirl. While we were spending our days watching the President tweet, a beautiful thing was happening: people were falling in love after meeting on OkCupid.
While we were happy to read all of the stories people submitted, we wanted to highlight some love stories from 2017 that made our hearts flutter, and make our jobs worth it.
Have one to share? We want to hear it: www.bitly.com/okcupidstory.
C.K. Alexander Jean & Jimmy Jean
“We could have actually met several times before connecting online, but it would be OkCupid that would finally bring us together. We could have met as kids, as Jimmy’s aunt lived around the corner from my childhood home. We could have met at the London NYC, a hotel in Manhattan. I work for the wedding section of the @NYTimes and I have covered several bridal events hosted at the London, but still never met him there even though he works at the front desk.We even shopped at the same mall in New Jersey — I would leave Harlem, where I lived at the time, to go to the Riverside Mall in New Jersey, which was 10 minutes from where Jimmy lived in New Jersey. It’s like we’ve been circling each other for years.”
“Us connecting on OkCupid was cosmic! The stars were aligned and we knew after discovering our individual paths were so connected that it was meant to be.”
P.S. Oprah also gave them a shoutout: bit.ly/oprah_shoutout
Ishmeal and Madhan
“We chatted on OkCupid and decided to meet in person at a lovely Italian restaurant in Manhattan’s West Village. Pretty soon into dinner, it was clear we were both interested in each other. After dinner, we took a stroll to a nearby for some warm winter drinks…Sitting by the window and looking at the winter streetscape, we knew that this was the start of something special.”
Thirteen months later, Ishmeal proposed to Madhan on Valentine’s Day.
Amanda and Greg
“I had watched a TED Talk about the algorithm used on OkCupid and how accurate was, so I decided to try it instead of other online dating apps. I searched through many different people but one of the highest rated matches was my future husband — I think we were a 98% compatibility — and it was very accurate.”
“We are very compatible in so many ways; I would not have met this amazing man without OkCupid. I believe we were supposed to meet each other, and we just needed a way to find each other, and OkCupid offered that.”
“Online dating can be scary and intimidating, but I recommend your site to anyone who asks me. I really believe that if everyone answers the questions accurately and correctly and honestly you can be matched up with someone really special that have a lot in common with. we owe everything to this website. And we are so incredibly happy!”
David & Jacqui
We sat down with Barack Obama’s former speechwriter @davidlitt to talk about this new book “Thanks, Obama: My Hopey Changey White House Years”…well, actually, to talk about the fact that he met his fiancé Jacqui on OkCupid while he was at the White House.
“Sometimes when you work in the White House, people assume you’re this person who doesn’t make mistakes. But in both working in the White House and in dating, you kind of learn to live with your imperfections.”
Chase & Taylor
Chase was on the verge of deleting OkCupid, but hung on to see what happens. That decision lead him to Taylor, the love of his life.
“My wife and I both started using OkCupid around the time we both moved to Portland, OR back in late 2014 / early 2015. We both joined upon arriving in Portland, seeing as we were single and didn’t know anyone in the city. I actually was hesitant to try online dating, and had doubts; in fact, there was one evening when I was feeling particularly hopeless and logged in just to delete my account…but while my finger hovered over the delete button, I decided it couldn’t hurt to just leave it and see what happens.”
“The next morning I received a new message from Taylor, the next weekend we had a 36-hour date that spanned over 3 days, and on May 27th of this year we were married. I guess my wife and I just want to thank all of you for making it all possible. We both feel like the other is the exact perfect person for us, that life has never been so wonderful and that we never would have met if not for OKC. So thank you, all of you, for making it possible for us to meet and fall in love! It sounds cheesy, but you guys really changed our lives in a monumental way.”
Spencer and Sean
We couldn’t have said it better ourselves. Congrats, Spencer and Sean!
“Spencer, I could not be any more grateful that you are in my life. Your passion, dedication, and spirit keep me falling in love with you every single day. I have never met anyone that lives their truth more than you. Thank you for making me feel powerful, strong, and so loved. Let’s bottle up this magic energy forever. Thank you for being the perfect Valentine for the rest of time! I love you!”
Brittany and Paul
“We talked for about 4 months through text and on the phone. We could talk for hours about nothing, just getting to know each other. The main thing we connected on was the fact that both of our mothers had died; we connected on such a deep level through that. We still believe they brought us together.”
“OkCupid definitely is a great place to find love. Our tips to anyone are to keep trying, and keep looking; your person is out there somewhere. Also, be honest on your profile. We were both 100% honest on our profiles and we let people in. Don’t be afraid to be your authentic self. It helps you find your match.”
Allison and Andrew
A Pitchfork Music Festival OkCupid Story that started with a flame. Err, a Torch.
At this point in her life, Allison had online dating down to a science: communicate sparsely online, and save the conversation for real life.
But Andrew caught her off-guard: on a restless night at 4 AM, she happen to receive an OkCupid message from a cute stranger. His opening line? “I see you like Torch.”
And seeing Torch was what they planned to do together — however when they arrived at the venue, Allison forgot her ID. So they settled on having their first date elsewhere. At KFC.
Submit your OkCupid Story at bitly.com/okcupidstory.
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When there’s a match in DoubleTake, you’ll see profile highlights to kick off a conversation
We get it. Sending that first message can be tough. Do you talk about the weather? Compliment their profile? Just say “hey sup?” While everyone deserves a perfectly-worded-conversational-yet-flirty first message, it’s waayy easier said than done. That’s why we’re introducing Connection Cards, a new DoubleTake feature on the app that helps you kick off a conversation.
This is how it works: every time you and another person like each other in DoubleTake, you’ll see a card that has a few interesting things about their profile — like essay responses and a photo you might have missed. That way you can start your conversation with something genuine and unique to that person (and retire the old days of saying ‘hey” to everyone, which has an 84% chance of being ignored).
While saying the perfect first thing 100% of the time is nearly impossible, we hope that this gives you a few more places to start. Best of luck.
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New OkCupid Connection Cards Help You Send Better Messages was originally published in The OkCupid Blog on Medium, where people are continuing the conversation by highlighting and responding to this story.
Or best, depending on how you look at it—sorry, DoritoprincessXO
What’s in a name?
You see, DaddyzPrincess29*, we all have names. Good, noble names that took weeks, perhaps months to choose— from Hannah to Jordan to Lady Bird. And what we’ve discovered is that those names actually work best—better than usernames—when it comes connecting with people. So listen closely laidback___stu, because this applies to you — even if you are straight chilling right now on a basement futon.
Ahead of the new year, we’re removing OkCupid usernames. It’s starting with a test group and will soon be rolled out to everyone on OkCupid, so all users will need to update their profiles with what they want their dates to call them. We know, this is tough to hear — especially for StayingPawwsitive, Dootdootledootd0 and Britney__Tears. It’s because, like the recent goodbye we said to AIM screen names, it’s time to keep up with the times. We want you, BigDaddyFlash916, to go by who you are, and not be hidden beneath another layer of mystique. Even if that mystique is crucial to you and your dating life, unicorn__jizz.
We understand that, for some, usernames are a great way to show off who you are. But for most, they are a pain to come up with and a pain to remember (or, in cases like unicorn__jizz, difficult to forget). And we hope that you can instead use your profile to give people an insight into your interests.
We’ve also heard from many members of our community that they want to maintain the privacy they enjoy with usernames—with this change, we won’t be collecting full names; instead, we encourage our users to go by the name they’d like their dates to call them on OkCupid.
So to reflect one last time before we go back to names, here are some fun stats we pulled from OkCupid usernames.
CAT VS. DOG PEOPLE
# of usernames with “cats” or “cat” 888,124
# of usernames with “dog” 138,246
# of usernames with “horny” 16,411
# of usernames with “sexy” 221,229
# of usernames with “lover” 157,553
# of usernames with “ICP” 11,392
# of usernames with “juggalo” 1,845
# of usernames with “juggalette” 405
*All usernames mentioned are real usernames that actually once existed on OkCupid, but we did edit them slightly to protect those DaddyzPrincesses out there.
Written by Kelly Cooper. Graphic design by Dana Davis.
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An Open Letter on Why We’re Removing Usernames, Addressed to the Worst Ones We’ve Ever Seen was originally published in The OkCupid Blog on Medium, where people are continuing the conversation by highlighting and responding to this story.